LIFE IS FULL OF CHOICES, REALLY?

One day recently, whilst browsing a chat group that I belonged to, a group that was relatively small in size, but big in relationships, considering the members were made up of old school classmates of...
nearly 40 years of absence, a member of the group, a royalty to be exact asked, "How does one exit a group without appearing to be a snob?"

I'll bet many may have pondered over this question, worried more for the 'snobbish' part rather than a choice more suited of contention. So, I took the liberty to coin up my 'two sacks of shells' worth and shared two methods worth on it.

One. Appearing to be a snob is only what others perceive of you. Something which we typically believe we are in control of. Something we've been brought up believing that the way we behave correlates with how we appear to others, hence the fear of appearing to be a snob and unbecoming, seems to prevail. Fear has been used throughout ages, over continents, races, creed and color, all to put one in orderly tow. Something which is ingrained into humanization. Right?

Well, right or wrong is not what should be emphasized here. What's important is, no matter what you choose, do you think those in the group would change how they perceive you? Especially when they'd rather choose to perceive you as being a snob, they will keep on perceiving such. It's their right. Their perception of life, and others around them, are their right. You can't and shouldn't control how they perceive you, no matter what you do.

That's imposing.

You too have that right. Nothing and nobody can take that right from you, unless you allow them to.
Question is would you? Would how you feel take precedence over how others feel over your choice of action? Are those others worth the while?

Eventually, it's either you stay or go. I'm not saying that you should be bad to be good here. Or to do anything illegal or immoral. I'm saying, knowing who you are and what makes you happy should be paramount to whatever else. If you dig deep into your being and find that spot that makes you happy, you'll soon realize that others around you will respect and accept your happiness. If they won't, you'll know if they're worth the while in the first place.

Or not.

Then the choice of leaving or how to leave the group becomes that much easier. Only you will know better for it is your own happiness. No one else would know better.

Many may or may not agree with me. That's their prerogative, again, their rights to an opinion. Which is why the next method may be worth your while too.

Two. The easier thing to do, (if you are not bothered by what I've said) is just to not comment on anything by the group; mute it to the max that you can and just ignore it after that. There'll be curiosities initially, but initial curiosities as in most cases, are just 'flash in the pan' instances. Soon, you'll be forgotten.

This too I'm sure, will be met with mixed feelings. Masses tend to steer towards that. Again something not within our control.

So, your royal highness, CHOOSE, for life is full of it.

To me, the chat group that I belong to now, has it's own unique entity. It may not be perfect, but I know I belong to this entity, until the time comes for me to leave it… only if I run out of choices or tolerances.